What Everyone Wants

A couple of years ago, I had a very intense friendship with someone. It was someone who really pushed me to take a serious look at many aspects of my life. We came in contact through business. He is an incredibly successful person by anyone’s standards. We came to know each other as individuals. Not prejudging the other in any shape or form. (more…)

September 27, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

Letting Go

Writing my last blog post required a huge amount of energy. Once it was done, I felt empowered. What helped more was reading the comments, the DMs, the IM’s, the emails and the tweets I have received since writing it. I knew before writing it that we all put up walls to some degree. I knew that most of us also wear masks – rarely truly letting people in to see who we really are. But the validation – actually knowing I wasn’t alone in how I was feeling and that I wasn’t alone from a friendship point of view – greatly contributed to the emotional strength I now possess.

In my last blog post, I made it seem like there were only 2 ways to deal with emotional burdens: trying to decipher things or burying them. A couple of conversations with good friends reminded me there is a 3rd – and much healthier way – simply learning when to truly let go. (more…)

September 8, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

Putting Up Walls

As I write this, I feel crushed and drained.

For several months, I’ve wanted to start this blog. I’ve felt the need to have some outlet where I could express “stuff” that has been going on inside of me. ¬†Countless times, I’ve found myself staring at the WordPress editing box. Sometimes as many as a dozen sentences will actually get typed. Then I end up backing up when I realize that I’m simply not comfortable putting myself out there to the extent that I feel the need to. A few days ago, the reason why I was having this difficulty clicked. Ironically, it is the reason why I wanted to start this blog to begin with. I’ve lived most of my life putting up walls. No, this isn’t uncommon. I suspect to some extent everyone does it. But I’m not so certain if the way I handle things is normal. (more…)

September 6, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized