How Fear Can Result in Self-Sabotage

If you follow me on Twitter, then you may have noticed I often tweet about fear. How we need to face our fears head on. How our biggest growth comes from overcoming fears. How fear prevents us from truly being everything we can be.

I’ve gotten a pretty good handle on confronting many kinds of fears but one has continually evaded me. Fear has managed to hinder me from finding real happiness.  The fear has been so pervasive that when I’ve been presented with a potential opportunity to have happiness, I start to self-sabotage. I will do things to destroy it. (more…)

August 4, 2010 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

Forgiving and Letting Go

One of the things that bring us down the most is holding onto anger and other negative feelings towards individuals. For us to be whole and emotionally healthy, we need to be able to deal with negative emotions.

I can’t remember the first time I heard the word “forgive.” I suspect you can’t either.  But what does it really mean to forgive?

If you go by the dictionary definition, to forgive is about ending the negative emotions attached to someone because of actions they did and not expecting restitution. (more…)

August 3, 2010 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

What have you done for me lately?

With U.S. Thanksgiving around the corner, I thought I’d share some thoughts about giving and gratitude.

With the economy the way that it is, with so many people having a really difficult go of things, it’s easy to forget about the many people in our world who are in desperate need in some way. The direness of the situation hit me like a slap in the face when I heard about the recent report from the United Nations that (more…)

November 16, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

Being Comfortable In My Own Skin

For many reasons, this has been a tumultuous year for me.  It’s been a huge year of personal growth. I feel I’ve made incredible progress. I’ve had some huge epiphanies recently and I wanted to share them here:

On Letting Go

If I’m actively thinking about how I am letting go of something or allowing the subject I am letting go of occupy any part of my brain space, that means I haven’t let go. I have let go when it’s no longer something that takes any part of my conscious or subconscious thought. (more…)

November 14, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized

How Friendships Are Changing

The lifespan of friendships is becoming shorter and shorter over time. Just a generation ago, most people were limited to friendships based on where they currently lived, where they had lived and networks based on where they went to school, their own activities and interests, their children, their neighbors, etc. Very often people maintained friendships over their entire life not because they even necessarily liked the person but because of shared history – similar to how many view family members. (more…)

October 27, 2009 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Uncategorized