Comments on: Being Comfortable In My Own Skin http://www.iweighttrain.com/43/in-my-own-skin/ Strength - self-empowerment - confidence Wed, 04 Aug 2010 19:07:08 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Frithjof http://www.iweighttrain.com/43/in-my-own-skin/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Frithjof Mon, 02 Aug 2010 15:00:23 +0000 http://www.iweighttrain.com/?p=43#comment-64 Thanks for pointing out your blog. Naturally I was drawn to this post first :-)<br>If I was an eloquent writer like you I may have written something very similar. A lot of your thoughts match my experiences and the consequences are similar... at least as far as how I want to be.<br>What you are describing is my life with - how I call it - "the emotional shields up" (being a border line Trekkie ;-) ) My shields work as long as I am strong and grounded. I can live everything you have described. <br>Funny enough sometimes the shields fail because of an imbalance or excessive stress. Or they have to be lowered to let someone else come close. If I get hurt then, the core that was protected gets hurt and bruises have to be lived until they heal.<br>Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier to leave those shields down so the inside can toughen up? But then.... that wouldn't be me.<br>Hmmm I wonder if any of this makes sense... thanks for helping me verbalize my thoughts Thanks for pointing out your blog. Naturally I was drawn to this post first :-)
If I was an eloquent writer like you I may have written something very similar. A lot of your thoughts match my experiences and the consequences are similar… at least as far as how I want to be.
What you are describing is my life with – how I call it – “the emotional shields up” (being a border line Trekkie ;-) ) My shields work as long as I am strong and grounded. I can live everything you have described.
Funny enough sometimes the shields fail because of an imbalance or excessive stress. Or they have to be lowered to let someone else come close. If I get hurt then, the core that was protected gets hurt and bruises have to be lived until they heal.
Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier to leave those shields down so the inside can toughen up? But then…. that wouldn't be me.
Hmmm I wonder if any of this makes sense… thanks for helping me verbalize my thoughts

]]> By: sharonhayes http://www.iweighttrain.com/43/in-my-own-skin/comment-page-1/#comment-55 sharonhayes Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:48:47 +0000 http://www.iweighttrain.com/?p=43#comment-55 Thanks for your comment Garrett. You honed in pretty well on the underlying point - how much energy I'd been wasting & how much I'd been stressing myself over things I had very little control over. There is so much in our lives we CAN control - too much for most of us to be able to accomplish everything we'd like to. Glad to see you're making progress on this journey we call life :) Thanks for your comment Garrett. You honed in pretty well on the underlying point – how much energy I'd been wasting & how much I'd been stressing myself over things I had very little control over. There is so much in our lives we CAN control – too much for most of us to be able to accomplish everything we'd like to. Glad to see you're making progress on this journey we call life :)

]]> By: Garrett http://www.iweighttrain.com/43/in-my-own-skin/comment-page-1/#comment-54 Garrett Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:32:43 +0000 http://www.iweighttrain.com/?p=43#comment-54 Sharon, your post is filled with so much wisdom. Acceptance and letting go take me a long way. Sorry to be mundane, but I spend a lot of time in my car, and I'm working on anticipating crosswalks and crosswalkers, slowing down to let people turn in front of me, and accept traffic delays. I wanted to be somewhere at 5 pm yesterday and there was a long line of cars in front of me. I admitted there was nothing I could do about it and a wise person like you once told me that the other drivers may be in a hurry too. So I took a breath, looked out the window and listened to the music on the radio, and before I knew it, I was moving again. <br><br>I've also learned that I don't have to know everything and be part of every conversation (who's doing what, gossip, etc.) If I need to know something, I can ask someone who might know. A truly liberating saying I heard is: "What other people think of me is none of my business." When I remember that, it's so freeing. I don't mind if people don't return my calls or e-mails; people are busy - it probably has nothing to do with me. I'm happy with who I am and am trying to set goals to become who I could be.<br><br>Thanks once again. I really like your blog and look forward to your thoughtful posts.<br><br>Garrett Sharon, your post is filled with so much wisdom. Acceptance and letting go take me a long way. Sorry to be mundane, but I spend a lot of time in my car, and I'm working on anticipating crosswalks and crosswalkers, slowing down to let people turn in front of me, and accept traffic delays. I wanted to be somewhere at 5 pm yesterday and there was a long line of cars in front of me. I admitted there was nothing I could do about it and a wise person like you once told me that the other drivers may be in a hurry too. So I took a breath, looked out the window and listened to the music on the radio, and before I knew it, I was moving again.

I've also learned that I don't have to know everything and be part of every conversation (who's doing what, gossip, etc.) If I need to know something, I can ask someone who might know. A truly liberating saying I heard is: “What other people think of me is none of my business.” When I remember that, it's so freeing. I don't mind if people don't return my calls or e-mails; people are busy – it probably has nothing to do with me. I'm happy with who I am and am trying to set goals to become who I could be.

Thanks once again. I really like your blog and look forward to your thoughtful posts.

Garrett

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